Reflecting on My Family

November 29, 2022

In this post, I want to discuss the most important people in my life and explore how their legacies have impacted and influenced me.

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From my mother, Tammy, I learned the importance of clear thinking and articulate expression. She was an accountant and taught me mathematics and the value of hard work during my childhood. She also showed me how to maintain a positive attitude, even when faced with challenges. She instilled in me a love for reading and effective self-study habits. She would engage me in conversations about what I had learned in school or from books, challenging me to think critically. Her influence has shaped my views on life and morals. I've found that articulating my thoughts into words is the best way for me to think.

My father, Tony, imparted the value of family to me. Working as an engineer, he sparked my interest in computer software through the books he read. He also emphasized the need for physical health and discipline in lifestyle choices. However, he sometimes serves as a cautionary example. We have differing political views and aspects of his behavior with which I disagree. These differences remind me to maintain an open mind and accept the variance in how people think and act. Attempts to debate with him often prove futile, as he struggles to communicate his thoughts logically and is unlikely to change his mind simply through argument.

My ex-girlfriend, Jo, taught me valuable lessons about love and emotional responsibility. Though our relationship ended and led me to experience depression, I came to understand the consequences of my actions that hurt her. I was forced to become more aware of my own feelings, as well as those of others. The experience encouraged me to be a better person, honing qualities like patience, emotional communication, and the ability to correct my mistakes. Lessons learned from our relationship extended to cohabitating and facing life’s challenges. After our breakup, I went through a particularly dark period. However, Jordan Peterson’s book, "12 Rules for Life," helped me to overcome this phase of depression.

In conclusion, the legacies of my parents and ex-girlfriend have been invaluable in shaping who I am today. I am deeply appreciative of the influences they have had on my life.

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Victor Leung, who blog about business, technology and personal development. Happy to connect on LinkedIn