Victor Leung

The Dilemmas of Life

How to overcome the dilemmas and live a better life

by Victor Leung

Format: Kindle Edition

What if you had the power to write your fate? We couldn’t foretell what would happen, but we could write about what we wanted to see in the future and be explicit about the goals and dreams we wanted to achieve. We couldn’t go back in time and change what had happened, but we could write about it and interpret our memories based on our own experiences. We can’t change what’s going on right now, but we can release our stress by writing down our present thoughts as meditation and therapy for our mental health.

What if the most effective self-help hook is one you create for yourself? I don’t mean the best self-help book for everyone; I mean the best self-help book for the author. I am a great lover of self-help books and have read quite a few. They provide me with brief bursts of vigour and motivation, but they do not affect my behaviour. I would be very successful now if all of those books worked, but instead of taking action, I am discouraged and seek out more self-help books to read. There are many theories and made-up reasons for us to keep improving, but we’ll never be able to do so if we don’t practice. Writing for self-reflection, such as journaling, is at least supported by some scientific data. Science appears to demonstrate that it works without completely comprehending why it works.

What if you start this experiment by jotting down your thoughts? On my thirty-first birthday, I’ve been considering what’s the finest gift I could get for myself? An iPad may be a costly item that I desire, but I am aware that monetary gifts provide only temporary enjoyment. Instead, I chose to get myself a notebook, which is a physical pen and paper on which I am writing, rather than a laptop computer. I’d want to try out a few of the potential advantages of writing right now.

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Table of content

- The lost message
- Continuous improvement
Section 1 – The Genesis of My Life
- A brief history of my childhood
- My memory in secondary school
- My love of Chinese philosophy in high school
- My time as an undergraduate student
- My memory in Brisbane
- My career transition to software engineer
- My imposter syndrome, insecurity and depression
Section 2 - My Health and Mindset
- Healthy mind, healthy body
- On positive mindset
- Be healthier
- On improving my habits
- On self actualisation
Section 3 - Romance and Love Stories
- Be mature
- What money cannot buy
- Think before I act
- An unexpected love that turned awry
- My ideal family
Section 4 - My Embarrassing Moments
- Uncomfortable around others
- Small social circle
- Social anxiety
- Difficult to approach others
- On being too quiet around strangers
- On losing opportunities
- On having too little to say
- On feeling drained by social interactions
Section 5 – My Tricks and Tips on Travelling
- Reasons why you should travel to Brisbane
- Visit Sydney in 3 days when having too little time
- Fun facts that I discovered in Melbourne
- Things I love and hate about Hong Kong
- Survival tips for non-Korean speakers in Busan and vicinity
- Fun things to do in Hanoi, Vietnam
- A look into Chile’s startup ecosystem
- My MBA study trip to Germany
Section 6 - My Perfect Day
- On my leisure activity
- I am always learning new things
- Stay curious
- Be sceptical
- Strive for efficiency and economy
Section 7 - On Leadership
- Be a better leader
- Take charge and lead
- Leadership gets results
- Leading the way
- Effective leadership in a technical role
- Managing your boss
- Evidence-based management
- Leadership styles
- Dealing with problem people
- Transform yourself from a follower to a leader
Section 8 - My Gratitude
- Live in the moment
- Be a team player
- On building and contributing to the community
- The tried and true way is the right way
- A story of an important moment in my life
- On sympathise with others' feelings
- Don’t be afraid; my mentor is here
Section 9 - My Future
- My ideal future
- The traits and qualities I admire
- In my career
- In my social life
- A future to avoid
Section 10 - Personal Problem and Advice
- The importance of communication as a software engineer
- The importance of public speaking
- Stop downloading apps for everything
- How to work with the product manager as a software engineer
- The challenge of Nexus, Scaled Professional Scrum (SPS)
- A hybrid of waterfall and agile
- Things I learned from the IoT project
- Hello Fin-Tech in Hong Kong
- It’s not a tech problem
- What I learned from building large-scale applications for overseas clients
- Hacking New Year’s Resolutions
- Does coding make you smarter?
- How do you tell your colleague he smells
- How to be a good consultant
- Jobs to be done
- On imperfection
- Reasons to write this self-help book