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影響力是你的超能力

大家好!歡迎返到我哋嘅頻道。今日,我哋會分享《Influence Is Your Superpower: How to Get What You Want Without Compromising Who You Are》呢本書嘅幾個關鍵要點。呢本書係由Yale大學教授Zoe Chance寫嘅,揭示咗如何在保持自我嘅同時,運用影響力取得成功。

首先,Zoe強調咗影響力係一門科學。佢利用最新嘅行為研究同真實生活嘅故事,教我哋點樣運用影響力來達到目的,而唔需要妥協自己嘅價值觀。她提出咗幾個關鍵技巧,包括“魔法問題”、“強力傾聽”同“你需要甚麼”嘅問題,幫助我哋在不同情境中運用影響力。

第二,書中介紹咗如何運用影響力嚟達成正面嘅結果。例如,在商業談判中,你可以通過建立共鳴同理解對方需求,來達成雙贏嘅結果。Zoe指出,影響力唔係控制他人,而係與他人合作,共同實現目標。

第三,Zoe提醒我哋,要防範那些唔道德嘅影響力技巧。佢教我哋如何辨識並抵抗那些試圖操控我哋嘅人或機構,保持自身嘅正直同價值觀。

最後,Zoe強調,影響力係一種超能力,可以用嚟創造更美好嘅世界。只要我哋善用影響力,唔單止可以達成個人目標,仲可以為周圍嘅人帶嚟積極嘅變化。

通過閱讀《Influence Is Your Superpower》,我哋可以學到點樣運用影響力來實現我哋嘅目標,並且保持我哋嘅價值觀同誠信。如果你覺得呢個視頻有幫助,請點贊、分享同訂閱我哋嘅頻道。多謝收睇!

重新思考正向思考的力量

大家好!歡迎返到我哋嘅頻道。今日,我哋會分享《Rethinking Positive Thinking: Inside the New Science of Motivation》呢本書嘅幾個關鍵要點。呢本書係由Gabriele Oettingen寫嘅,揭示咗點樣重新思考正向思考,從而更有效咁實現我哋嘅目標。

首先,Oettingen提出咗“心智對比法”(mental contrasting)。呢個方法結合咗正向思考同面對現實障礙,讓我哋喺夢想同現實之間找到平衡。單單幻想美好嘅未來反而會減少我哋嘅動力,但如果我哋同時考慮實現目標嘅障礙,會令我哋更有動力去行動。

第二,Oettingen介紹咗一個四步驟嘅計劃方法,叫做WOOP,分別係Wish(願望)、Outcome(結果)、Obstacle(障礙)同Plan(計劃)。呢個方法幫助我哋具體化我哋嘅目標,並制定應對障礙嘅具體計劃。

第三,呢本書亦討論咗心智對比法喺健康、人際關係同工作表現等方面嘅應用。通過呢個方法,研究顯示人們更容易戒煙、減肥、取得更好嘅學業成績,並且提升職場表現。

最後,Oettingen強調,僅僅依靠正向思考並唔夠。現實中嘅障礙反而可以成為我哋實現夢想嘅推動力。只要我哋能夠正視這些障礙,並制定有效嘅計劃,我哋就能夠更好咁實現自己嘅目標。

通過閱讀《Rethinking Positive Thinking》,我哋可以學到點樣通過現實同夢想嘅結合,從而提升我哋嘅動力,同實現人生中嘅各種目標。如果你覺得呢個視頻有幫助,請點贊、分享同訂閱我哋嘅頻道。多謝收睇!

Overcoming Fear - My Journey Through Storytelling and Building Confidence

Yes, I was extremely nervous. My heart raced, my stomach churned with anxiety, and the emergency exit door beside me seemed like a beacon of escape. "It’s not too late to leave now," I thought. Although I had accumulated public speaking experiences over the years, standing before two hundred people who had been drinking and expected to be entertained with stories was different. My mind raced with thoughts of failure—blank stares, silent rejection, boos, and even the possibility of having drinks thrown at me. The pressure was immense.

It was my mentor who first inspired me to sign up for a storytelling course. He took the plunge in his seventies and found it exhilarating, claiming it could also benefit my career. At the time, I was working in sales, and he wisely said, "Everyone likes a good storyteller. The more people connect with your stories, the more you can sell!" I didn’t plan on switching careers to storytelling, but I felt stuck in the comfort zone of my life and wanted to challenge myself. I believed that pushing these boundaries would improve my emotional resilience. So, I debated between taking a storytelling course and skydiving. Now, I wished I had chosen skydiving.

The moment arrived. The host's voice boomed through the room: "Please welcome our next storyteller, Victor Leung!" I stepped out, grabbed the microphone, and launched into my six-minute story. Most of my material was about my family. I opened with, "My cooking skills are so bad that last week I made egg fried rice, and even the eggs complained about their fate. They said, 'We thought we were going to be omelets, not hostages in this disaster.'" It was a silly, light-hearted joke, but some people chuckled. Those few chuckles gave me enough confidence to keep going, delivering more engaging stories and eliciting more reactions. In the end, the performance was a success. None of the nightmarish scenarios I imagined came true. It was actually fun and thrilling, an experience that left me brimming with adrenaline and newfound confidence.

From that night on, I continued storytelling, gradually gaining confidence, even though not every performance was a hit. There were moments when I bombed, telling the same story in the same way to different audiences with mixed reactions. Sometimes, I encountered hecklers. Once, I was even yanked off stage during an open mic for running over my time. But these worst-case scenarios weren’t as catastrophic as I’d feared. Over time, I learned to observe audience reactions, improve my timing, and interact more naturally. I even discovered how to measure success with "LPM" (laughs per minute), a metric I'd never known existed. I found that tougher crowds honed my skills more than easy audiences, and those so-called "bad" nights paved the way for the "good" ones. All of this expanded my comfort zone, and the confidence I built carried over into all areas of my life.

To take control of our lives, we first need to take control of ourselves, and confidence is key to achieving this. True, sincere confidence—not arrogance—is the fuel that propels us through challenges. It empowers us to interact healthily with others, take risks, and seize opportunities. Confidence is one of the most important pillars for a fulfilling life, whereas the opposite—living in fear, doubt, insecurity, and worry—can be destructive.

How do we build confidence and bridge the gap between who we are and who we want to be? Two factors play crucial roles: self-efficacy and self-worth.

Self-efficacy is the belief that we can accomplish a task, directly influencing our ability to meet our goals. People with high self-efficacy view challenges as opportunities rather than threats because they trust in their abilities and resilience. Even if they fall short, they know the journey will help them grow and improve.

For me, stepping on that stage for the first time was about building self-efficacy. It was a testament to embracing discomfort, facing fears head-on, and learning from both victories and failures. The journey to confidence isn't linear or easy, but it's one worth taking—for your career, your relationships, and your overall well-being.

If you’re interested in hearing my storytelling and public speaking, check out this YouTube video:

Trial and Error | Love and Loss

如何達致財務自由與提早退休

大家好!歡迎返到我哋嘅頻道。今日,我哋會分享《Playing with FIRE: How Far Would You Go for Financial Freedom?》呢本書嘅幾個關鍵要點。呢本書係由Scott Rieckens寫嘅,講述佢同佢家庭點樣追求財務獨立同提早退休嘅旅程。

首先,Rieckens強調咗財務獨立嘅核心理念。佢介紹咗FIRE運動,旨在通過極端儲蓄同明智投資,達到提早退休嘅目標。呢個運動強調要節制開支,專注於儲蓄和投資。

第二,佢分享咗點樣改變生活方式嚟支持呢個目標。例如,佢同佢家庭採取咗極簡主義嘅生活方式,大幅減少唔必要嘅開支,從而加快儲蓄速度。

第三,本書提供咗多個成功案例,說明唔同人點樣通過FIRE運動實現財務自由。呢啲故事唔單止畀人啟發,仲提供咗實用嘅建議同策略。

最後,Rieckens強調咗投資嘅重要性。佢解釋咗點樣通過低成本嘅指數基金同其他投資工具,來增加資產價值,加快達到財務自由嘅步伐。

通過閱讀《Playing with FIRE》,我哋可以學到點樣通過合理嘅理財同投資策略,實現財務獨立同提早退休嘅夢想。如果你覺得呢個視頻有幫助,請點贊、分享同訂閱我哋嘅頻道。多謝收睇!

克服恐懼 —— 我在說故事與建立自信中的旅程

是的,我非常緊張。我的心跳加速,胃部因焦慮而翻滾,旁邊的緊急出口像是一盞指引逃生的明燈。「現在離開還不算晚吧?」我心想。儘管這些年來累積了一些公開演講的經驗,但站在兩百名喝著酒、期待被故事娛樂的人面前,感覺完全不同。我的腦海中充斥著失敗的念頭——呆滯的目光、無聲的拒絕、噓聲,甚至可能有人向我扔飲料。壓力大得無以復加。

是我的導師首次啟發我報名參加一個說故事的課程。他在七十多歲時毅然參加,並表示這讓他感到振奮,還認為這對我的職業生涯也有幫助。當時,我從事銷售工作,他明智地說:「每個人都喜歡聽好故事。你的故事越能讓人產生共鳴,你就越能賣出產品!」我並沒有打算轉行成為說故事的人,但我覺得自己生活在舒適圈裡停滯不前,渴望挑戰自我。我相信突破這些界限能提升我的情緒韌性。於是,我在參加說故事課程和跳傘之間猶豫不決。現在,我希望自己當時選擇了跳傘。

那一刻到來了。主持人的聲音在房間裡迴盪:「讓我們歡迎下一位說故事者,Victor Leung!」我走上前,拿起麥克風,開始了我的六分鐘故事。大部分內容是關於我的家人。我開場說:「我的廚藝差到上週我做了蛋炒飯,連雞蛋都在抱怨自己的命運。他們說,‘我們本以為會變成煎蛋,而不是成為這場災難的人質。’」這是一個愚蠢的輕鬆笑話,但有些人笑了。這些零星的笑聲給了我足夠的信心繼續下去,講出更有吸引力的故事並引起更多的反應。最終,這場表演很成功。我想像中的那些可怕場景都沒有發生。這實際上既有趣又刺激,讓我充滿了腎上腺素和全新的自信。

從那天晚上開始,我繼續講故事,逐漸建立起自信,儘管並不是每次表演都很成功。有時我失敗了,對不同的觀眾以相同的方式講同一個故事,但反應卻參差不齊。有時我遇到了擾亂者。有一次,甚至在一場開放麥克風的活動中,因為超時而被拉下了舞台。但這些最糟糕的情況並不像我擔心的那麼災難性。隨著時間的推移,我學會了觀察觀眾的反應,改善自己的節奏,更自然地互動。我甚至發現了一個名為「每分鐘笑聲」(LPM)的成功指標,是我以前從未聽說過的。我發現,困難的觀眾比容易的觀眾更能磨練我的技巧,而那些所謂的「糟糕」夜晚為「美好」夜晚鋪平了道路。所有這一切都拓展了我的舒適區,而我建立起來的自信延伸到了生活的各個方面。

要掌控我們的生活,首先需要掌控自己,而自信是實現這一目標的關鍵。真正、真誠的自信——而非自大——是推動我們克服挑戰的燃料。它使我們能夠健康地與他人互動,敢於冒險並抓住機會。自信是充實人生的最重要支柱之一,而反之——生活在恐懼、懷疑、不安全感和擔憂中——可能是破壞性的。

我們如何建立自信,並在我們現在的自己與理想中的自己之間架起橋樑?有兩個因素至關重要:自我效能感和自我價值感。

自我效能感是我們能完成任務的信念,直接影響我們實現目標的能力。具有高自我效能感的人將挑戰視為機會,而非威脅,因為他們信任自己的能力和韌性。即使他們未能達成目標,他們也知道這段旅程會幫助他們成長和進步。

對我而言,第一次站上舞台就是為了建立自我效能感。這是一種擁抱不適、直面恐懼、並從成功與失敗中學習的見證。自信的旅程並不是線性或容易的,但這是一趟值得的旅程——對你的職業、你的關係和你的整體幸福來說。

如果你有興趣觀看我的故事和公開演講,請查看這段 YouTube 視頻:

試與錯|愛與失

AWS 安全專業認證

大家好!歡迎返到我哋嘅頻道。今日,我哋會分享《AWS Certified Security Specialty All-in-One Exam Guide》呢本書嘅幾個關鍵要點。呢本書係由Tracy Pierce等人寫嘅,專門為準備考AWS安全專業認證嘅考生設計。

首先,呢本書全面覆蓋咗考試嘅所有內容,包括雲端安全事件調查同應對計劃。學習點樣處理同修復安全事件係考試中一個重要部分。

第二,本書詳細介紹咗使用Amazon CloudWatch進行監控嘅方法。呢個工具可以幫助我哋實時監控AWS環境,提高安全性同合規性。

第三,書中亦提到咗設計同實施安全網絡基礎設施嘅技巧。包括點樣設計邊緣安全同主機安全,確保我哋嘅系統免受外來威脅。

最後,呢本書仲介紹咗AWS身份和訪問管理(IAM)嘅知識。了解點樣管理用戶同權限係保護AWS資源嘅關鍵。

通過閱讀《AWS Certified Security Specialty All-in-One Exam Guide》,我哋可以全面掌握AWS安全專業認證嘅考試內容,同時提升我哋喺實際工作中嘅安全管理能力。如果你覺得呢個視頻有幫助,請點贊、分享同訂閱我哋嘅頻道。多謝收睇!

從貧困移民到億萬富翁

大家好!歡迎返到我哋嘅頻道。今日,我哋會分享John Catsimatidis嘅書《How Far Do You Want to Go?》入面嘅幾個關鍵要點。呢本書講述咗佢從貧困嘅希臘移民到成為億萬富翁嘅成功故事。

首先,Catsimatidis強調咗機會同毅力嘅重要性。佢由一個貧困嘅希臘移民家庭出身,喺紐約市嘅Harlem長大。佢喺讀書期間開始喺一家雜貨店工作,最終決定全職投入呢個行業。

第二,佢提到咗依靠直覺同常識去做決策。Catsimatidis強調,在商業世界中,快速同果斷嘅決策往往能夠帶嚟成功。佢認為,常識同簡單嘅直覺往往比複雜嘅理論更有效。

第三,佢強調咗建立人際關係同網絡嘅重要性。Catsimatidis喺事業初期就開始建立廣泛嘅人際關係,呢啲關係幫助佢喺商業世界中不斷發展。

最後,佢提到咗回饋社會嘅重要性。Catsimatidis認為成功唔單止係賺錢,更係要用自己嘅成功去幫助其他人,回饋社會。

通過閱讀《How Far Do You Want to Go?》,我哋可以學到John Catsimatidis成功嘅秘訣,同時汲取佢嘅經驗,應用喺自己嘅事業中。如果你覺得呢個視頻有幫助,請點贊、分享同訂閱我哋嘅頻道。多謝收睇!

A Guide to Mindful Acceptance

Dealing with anxiety and cravings has been a struggle for as long as I can remember. I tried every tip out there—distracting myself, challenging my thoughts, even trying to ignore them altogether. But none of that really worked. I’d end up even more stressed, wondering why I couldn’t just “get over it.”

Recently, though, I came across a different approach, and it’s honestly changed how I handle tough emotions. Instead of pushing away the anxiety or cravings, I began to just accept them. It might sound strange, but stay with me, because this simple shift has made a big difference for me.

The classic way people tell you to handle anxiety is to question and challenge negative thoughts. For example, if I thought, “Everyone thinks I’m weird,” I’d try to replace it with, “No, people probably don’t notice.” But when you’re really anxious about social situations, it’s hard to believe those new, positive thoughts. It feels like you’re just lying to yourself. And honestly, just trying not to think about it at all feels impossible! It’s like trying not to think about a pink elephant—suddenly, that’s all you can think about. So this approach never felt right for me.

Then I learned about a different approach that’s more about observing and accepting what you feel, instead of fighting it. Rather than trying to shut down my anxious thoughts before a social gathering or while talking to someone new, I’d just notice them. If I felt nervous, I’d acknowledge it, feel where that nervousness showed up in my body, and focus on my breathing. It’s not about getting rid of the anxiety but about realizing, “Okay, I’m anxious in this situation, but that’s okay. I can handle this feeling.” And here’s the surprising part: when I stopped resisting my anxiety, it started feeling less intense.

One example that really sticks with me is from my visits to my grandfather in the hospital. Every time I left, I felt a mix of guilt and sadness. Before, I’d try to shake off those feelings, which only made them worse. But I started a new practice where, after each visit, I’d sit on a bench outside, close my eyes, and let myself feel those emotions fully. I imagined my feelings like dark clouds and my breath like a gentle breeze blowing them away. The guilt and sadness would eventually fade. Sometimes, a lingering heaviness would stick around, but I learned to sit with it. I didn’t need to push it away; it was okay to feel sad. This small change helped me feel more at peace, even during tough times.

Another place this approach helped was with cravings, especially around things like binge-watching TikTok. I used to feel guilty about spending hours scrolling through videos, telling myself, “I won’t do it tonight.” But shifting from “I won’t” to “I want to” changed everything. I started focusing on wanting to do things that felt better for me in the long run, like reading a book, spending time with friends, or getting a good night’s sleep. I’d remind myself of how much better I felt when I chose these things. This way, I wasn’t fighting the craving to scroll through TikTok; I was just choosing something that felt better. Surprisingly, this made it much easier to stick to my goals.

This same approach worked for other cravings, like the urge to scroll through TikTok. Instead of trying to make the urge disappear, I started observing it. When I felt the pull to open the app, I’d pause and check in with how my body felt. Maybe there was some restlessness or a bit of boredom. Rather than giving in immediately, I’d imagine the urge like a wave building up. Waves rise and fall, but they always fade. I reminded myself that even if I didn’t open TikTok right away, the urge would eventually disappear on its own. This helped me break the habit of mindless scrolling and enjoy more intentional moments of downtime.

Both anxiety and cravings can feel like waves crashing over us. But by simply observing them, without fighting or judging, I’ve learned to let these feelings come and go. This shift has been a game-changer for me. Now, instead of getting frustrated with myself, I feel calmer and more in control.

So if you’re struggling with anxiety, cravings, or just tough emotions in general, maybe give this approach a try. Don’t fight it. Just observe, breathe, and let it be. You might find, like I did, that sometimes the easiest way to overcome something is by not fighting it at all.

探索中華文化的深厚底蘊

大家好!歡迎返到我哋嘅頻道。今日我哋會探討《中華文化十二講》呢本書,係由著名學者錢穆先生寫嘅。呢本書探討咗中國文化嘅成就、意義同價值。

首先,錢穆先生強調咗中國文化嘅獨特成就。佢認為中國文化有其深厚嘅歷史背景同重要性,即使喺現代社會中,我哋都應該尊重同繼承呢啲傳統。

第二,佢討論咗中國文化嘅核心價值觀,例如家庭、和諧同禮儀。呢啲價值觀唔單止影響咗中國人嘅生活方式,仲喺全球範圍內產生咗深遠嘅影響。

第三,錢穆先生亦提到咗中國文化對人類未來嘅貢獻。佢相信,中國文化嘅復興可以為世界帶嚟新嘅希望同方向。

通過閱讀《中華文化十二講》,我哋可以更深入理解中國文化嘅博大精深,並且從中汲取智慧。希望大家可以從呢本書中學到有用嘅知識,並且應用喺自己嘅生活中。如果你覺得呢個視頻有幫助,請點贊、分享同訂閱我哋嘅頻道。多謝收睇!

正念接受的指南

處理焦慮和渴望一直以來都是我面臨的一大挑戰。我試過所有的方法——分散注意力、挑戰自己的想法,甚至試圖完全忽視它們。然而,這些方法都沒有效果。我最終變得更加壓力重重,不禁懷疑自己為什麼無法「克服它」。

最近,我接觸到了一種不同的方法,這種方法真的改變了我應對困難情緒的方式。不再是試圖驅趕焦慮或渴望,而是開始接納它們。這可能聽起來有點奇怪,但請聽我說,這種簡單的轉變對我來說有著巨大的影響。

傳統的方法是通過質疑和挑戰負面想法來處理焦慮。例如,如果我想著「每個人都覺得我很奇怪」,我會試著用「不,人們可能根本沒注意到」來取代這種想法。但是,當你對社交場合真的感到焦慮時,很難相信這些新的、積極的想法。這感覺像是在對自己撒謊。說真的,試圖不去想它根本就是不可能的!這就像試著不去想一隻粉紅色的大象——突然間,這就是你腦中唯一的畫面。所以,這種方法對我來說從來沒有奏效。

後來,我學到了一種更關於觀察和接受自己感受的方法,而不是與之抗爭。在社交聚會前或與新認識的人聊天時,我不再試圖壓制我的焦慮想法,而是注意到它們。如果我感到緊張,我會承認這種感覺,感受這種緊張感在身體中的具體位置,並專注於我的呼吸。這並不是要消除焦慮,而是意識到「好吧,我在這種情況下感到焦慮,但這沒關係。我可以應對這種感覺。」驚喜的是,當我停止抵抗焦慮時,它的強度開始減弱。

讓我印象最深刻的一個例子是我去醫院探望祖父的經歷。每次探望結束後,我都感到內疚和悲傷。以前,我會試圖擺脫這些情緒,結果反而讓情況更糟。但後來,我開始在每次探望後嘗試一種新的做法:我會坐在外面的長椅上,閉上眼睛,讓自己完全感受這些情緒。我想像自己的情感像是烏雲,而呼吸像是溫柔的微風,將它們慢慢吹散。內疚和悲傷最終會消失。有時,心中的沉重感會依然存在,但我學會了與之共處。我不需要將它推開;感到悲傷是可以的。這個小小的改變讓我即使在艱難的時刻也能感到更平靜。

這種方法在應對渴望時也幫助了我,特別是在像刷 TikTok 這樣的行為上。我以前對自己花幾個小時刷短視頻感到內疚,對自己說「今晚我絕對不會再刷了」。但將「我不會」轉變成「我想要」徹底改變了一切。我開始專注於那些從長遠來看讓我感覺更好的事情,比如讀一本書、和朋友共度時光或睡個好覺。我會提醒自己,選擇這些事情後的感覺會好得多。這樣,我並不是在與刷 TikTok 的渴望作鬥爭,而是選擇了一些讓我感覺更好的事情。令人驚訝的是,這讓我更容易堅持自己的目標。

同樣的策略也適用於其他渴望,比如衝動地刷 TikTok。與其試圖讓這種衝動消失,我開始觀察它。當我感到想打開應用的衝動時,我會停下來感受身體的狀態。可能有些不安或一點無聊。與其立刻屈服,我會把這種衝動想像成一個漸漸升起的浪潮。浪潮有高有低,但它們總會退去。我提醒自己,即使我不立即打開 TikTok,這種衝動最終也會自行消失。這幫助我打破了無意識刷視頻的習慣,並更加享受那些有意識的閒暇時刻。

焦慮和渴望都像是拍打我們的浪潮。但通過簡單地觀察它們,而不是與之抗爭或評判,我學會了讓這些感覺來來去去。這種轉變對我來說意義重大。現在,我不再因自己感到挫敗,而是感到更加平靜和掌控自如。

所以,如果你正在努力應對焦慮、渴望或其他困難的情緒,不妨試試這種方法。不要抗爭。只需觀察、呼吸,讓它自然流動。你可能會發現,有時最簡單的克服方式就是不去抗爭。