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避免的未來

一個沒有意義的生活描繪了一個不利的未來的生動圖象。人們努力工作以實現他們的目標,追求他們的理想。科學的目的是揭示真理,而藝術的目標是顯示美。善良和愛的行為確立了道德,政治行動的價值在於實現社會公平。人類對食物、愛情、榮譽和權力的慾望都會在自我實現中達到高潮。根據馬斯洛的需求層次理論,這些價值推動我們在生活中達到自我實現的最高水平。

我的價值觀塑造了我的日常行為。我努力在所有事物中找到價值,從看似微不足道的事物中挖掘意義,從負面中提取積極,並持續地活出我的生命價值。我相信這種價值體系可以指導我的日常生活,豐富我的生活,提高我的性格。

要成為我理想的自我,我必須避免實現不了我的目標,讓壞習慣失控,變得不滿、憤怒或苦澀。我需要追求各種興趣,投入大量的努力。用各種引人入勝的內容和活動充實我的生活,這些追求將共同創造出更有意義的生活。我擁有的經驗越多,我就越能理解自己的生活。

過一種與眾不同、充實的生活將幫助我避免嫉妒他人。我應該少關注物質,更關注心靈成長。我永遠不應該對我的現狀感到滿足,而應該不斷地滋養我的創造力並努力變得更強大和更好。

在我的職業中,我追求意義和目的。我旨在將能量注入我的日常任務,並將它們與更大的利益相連接。當我無法建立這種聯繫時,我就會感到疲倦並丧失動力。

員工經常不信任來自老板的激勵性演講,懷疑其主要目的是讓他們多做工作。然而,一位聰明的領導者可以將一個困難的情況轉變為一個非凡的機會。俗話說,“錢跟著管理走,”反之亦然,管理不善會導致財務浪費。一個做出錯誤判斷的高級領導團隊會使員工情緒低落,讓工作變得毫無意義。在這種有毒的環境中,我必須意識到人們可能會訴諸欺詐和不誠實的行為,這是我將在未來避免的。

僅僅為了金錢工作會削弱我的感受到快樂和好奇心的能力,這些感情來自於追求有意義的目標。有了充足的被動收入,我就有了經濟自由去探索和嘗試。這種分散的方法允許更大的創造力,並使小的成功試驗更具有回報。

為了管理我的生產性焦慮,我需要進行精神排練。雖然有些人可能會對我的行為和話語產生負面反應,但即使在被低估的情況下,我也必須保持熱情。我應該努力理解人們的需求和興趣,聽到我自己聲音中的確定性,並且能夠輕鬆地說話。在緊張的情況下,我會使用諷刺或撤退來避免做出不適當的反應。作為一名領導者,我的目標是為工作場所注入能量,對人際關係和整個組織產生積極的影響。

虛擬經驗永遠無法代替真實的經驗。我不能在不實際參與的情況下全面評估我對任何事業的熱情或能力。簡而言之,恐懼圍繞著危險的可能性。要克服恐懼,我需要對機會、機率、風險和收益有深入的了解。

參與真實的經驗允許我想象未來,預測我的位置,並相應地做出計劃。志願者提供了一個應用我的技能的機會。我不能輕易地讓時間流逝,消極無言。

我清楚地知道我有一天會死。雖然我不知道我出生前來自何方,或者死後會去何方,但我知道,這個當下是獨一無二的,不應該被浪費。

如果我不用我的好奇心去嘗試新的事物,發現新的想法和解決方案,那就太浪費了。我希望以我的視野激勵他人,並始終對更好的解決方案保持開放,同時避免理想主義和完美主義。對我來說,"夠好"是不可接受的。

我的熱情在於創造力和創新。我希望與那些欣賞創造性和策略性思維解決問題的人合作。我可以看到全局,結構化問題,激發策略領導的好奇心和獨創性,並能夠適應我理想的未來。

我希望避免的未來是那種壓抑我的原則,阻礙我成為最好的自己的未來。如果我發現自己的生活充滿了冷嘲和怨恨,那就表示我沒有活出我的潛力。

The Ideal Future

I aspire to be an exceptional leader in my ideal future. Serving the community not only brings immense fulfillment but also requires ongoing learning to navigate a demanding environment.

Leadership is never simple, yet it is achievable. It involves skillfully navigating politics, bridging gaps between individuals and departments, addressing sensitive issues, and exhibiting courage in risky situations. Leaders must inspire commitment, handle resistance effectively, and show up confidently in critical moments.

In this post, I discuss various roles within organizations—leaders, managers, team members, employees, superiors, and subordinates. All of these roles share one thing: they are performed by humans with different thoughts, behaviors, attitudes, and working styles, often shaped by corporate culture.

Although I have yet to reach the level of a corporate leader, I strive to demonstrate leadership qualities and earn the respect of my colleagues. In any organization, CEOs and board members set the policies and are considered the true leaders.

A key distinction between leaders and managers is that leaders have followers, while managers have employees. A successful business owner or CEO must be both a leader and a manager to guide their team toward success. Leadership involves inspiring others to buy into your vision and collaborate on common goals, whereas management focuses on the administrative side of ensuring smooth daily operations.

Leader vs Manager

Leader

  • Focuses on people
  • Does the right things
  • Inspires
  • Influences
  • Motivates
  • Builds
  • Shapes entities
  • Creates shared values
  • Sets direction

Manager

  • Focuses on tasks
  • Does things right
  • Plans
  • Organizes
  • Directs
  • Controls
  • Follows rules
  • Assigns tasks
  • Delegates responsibilities

While the roles are distinct, a successful manager also embodies numerous leadership qualities. I believe that my leadership skills can enhance my career as a manager, benefiting both my company and myself.

My Leadership Qualities

My leadership qualities include Vision, Communication, Empowerment, and Role Modeling. A leader should have a visionary perspective, inspiring others to aim high. Leaders like Nelson Mandela and Steve Jobs, who I greatly admire, have exhibited this visionary power. They were able to challenge the status quo and bring about significant changes in society and industry.

Communication

Effective communication involves more than just speaking well; it also means connecting meaningfully through various channels like face-to-face interaction, emails, and social media. Each channel requires a unique approach, but the content and structure of the message are what truly make the difference.

Empowerment

Empowerment in the workplace is increasingly becoming the norm. It involves delegation, authorization, and information sharing. However, self-empowerment is equally crucial for achieving efficiency in day-to-day life.

Role Model

A role model leads by example, exhibiting high standards of responsibility and integrity. Role models are self-aware, empathetic, and open to new ideas. They empower others by first empowering themselves.

As a new manager, I recognize that I have much to learn and that making mistakes is part of the process. I'm committed to continuous improvement and aim to positively impact society and inspire others to make the world a better place.

My journey involves developing my communication skills, both verbal and non-verbal, and building strong relationships with my team. Learning to be an effective leader is an ongoing process that requires active participation, not just passive learning. Taking on real-life challenges and practicing leadership in low-risk situations is essential for growth.

In summary, my ideal future involves being an honorable and effective leader who contributes positively to the world. I admire many great leaders in history who may not have excelled in every area but had specific strengths that allowed their teams to achieve remarkable results. Like them, I aim to make the most of my strengths to create a better future for everyone.

理想的未來

在我理想的未來,我渴望成為一位卓越的領導者。為社區服務不僅帶來巨大的滿足感,也需要持續學習以應對嚴峻的環境。

領導絕非易事,但卻可以實現。它涉及巧妙地導航政治,彌補個人和部門之間的差距,解決敏感問題,並在風險情況中展現勇氣。領導者必須激發承諾,有效處理阻力,並在關鍵時刻自信地出現。

在這篇文章中,我討論了組織內的各種角色 - 領導者,經理,團隊成員,員工,上級和下屬。所有這些角色都有一個共同點:他們是由擁有不同思想,行為,態度和工作風格的人執行的,這些人往往由公司文化塑造。

儘管我還未達到企業領導者的水平,但我努力展示領導品質並贏得同事的尊重。在任何組織中,首席執行官和董事會成員都會制定政策,並被視為真正的領導者。

領導者與經理的一個關鍵區別是領導者有追隨者,而經理有員工。成功的企業主或首席執行官必須是領導者和經理,以引導他們的團隊走向成功。領導包括激勵他人買入您的願景並合作實現共同的目標,而管理則專注於確保日常運營順利。

領導者vs經理

領導者

  • 專注於人
  • 做對的事
  • 激勵
  • 影響
  • 激勵
  • 建設
  • 塑造實體
  • 創建共享價值觀
  • 設定方向

經理

  • 專注於任務
  • 做事對
  • 計劃
  • 組織
  • 指導
  • 控制
  • 遵守規則
  • 分配任務
  • 委派責任

儘管角色明確,但成功的經理也體現了眾多領導素質。我相信我的領導技能可以提升我的經理職業生涯,對我和我的公司都有利。

我的領導素質

我的領導素質包括願景,溝通,賦權和角色塑造。一個領導者應有前瞻性的觀點,激勵他人設定高目標。像我非常敬佩的奈爾遜·曼德拉和史蒂夫·賈伯斯這樣的領導者就展示了這種有遠見的力量。他們能挑戰現狀,並在社會和行業中帶來重大變革。

溝通

有效的溝通不僅僅是說話能力強,還意味著需要通過面對面交互,電子郵件和社交媒體等多種渠道進行有意義的連接。每個頻道都需要獨特的方法,但信息的內容和結構才是真正產生差別的地方。

賦權

工作場所中的賦權越來越成為常態。它涉及委派,授權,和信息共享。然而,自我賦權同樣對於實現日常生活的效率至關重要。

角色模型

一個角色模型以身作則,表現出高度的責任心和誠信。角色模型具有自我意識,有同情心,並對新想法持開放態度。他們通過首先賦予自己權力來賦權他人。

作為一個新的經理,我認識到我還有很多要學習,並且犯錯是過程的一部分。我致力於持續改進並旨在積極影響社會,激勵他人使世界變得更美好。

我的旅程涉及到發展我的溝通技巧,無論是口語還是非語言,並與我的團隊建立堅固的關係。學習成為一個有效的領導者是一個需要主動參與的持續過程,而不僅僅是被動學習。在低風險的情況下承擔真實生活的挑戰並練習領導是促進成長的必要條件。

總的來說,我理想的未來包括成為一個光榮和有效的領導者,對世界作出積極的貢獻。我敬佩歷史上許多偉大的領導者,他們可能並不擅長每個領域,但有特定的優勢讓他們的團隊能夠取得驚人的成果。就像他們一樣,我也希望充分利用我的優勢為所有人創造更好的未來。

Swipe Left or Swipe Right? A Journey Through Dating and Maturity

Are you single or perhaps in a complicated marital status? Finding love can be a daunting task, whether you're single or "available."

I'm no stranger to dating apps like Tinder, Coffee Meets Bagel, OkCupid, and Hinge. Let me break down how they work: you swipe left to reject a profile and swipe right to connect. Most of the time, conversations end before they even begin, leaving me with untold stories.

On the education section of my dating profile, I mention my three university degrees, each tied to a story. It's not a big deal—just three stories, really.

First, there's my bachelor's degree in Chemistry from the Faculty of Science.

In high school, I was a dreamer engaged in student union activities while my then-girlfriend was a realist focused on academic excellence. We had divergent ambitions. After high school, we went to separate universities; I studied Chemistry, while she enrolled in business school. During a summer holiday, she broke up with me, criticizing my lack of ambition for our future. "Come on, Victor, can you be more mature?" she chided before walking away.

My second degree is a master's in Computer Science.

My first girlfriend was right. I ended up in a low-paying lab job and later went on a working holiday to Australia. Upon my return, I shifted careers to software engineering. To bridge the gap between my academic background and my new career, I pursued a master's degree in computer science. During this period, I met another girlfriend on a dating app. An extrovert, she earned more than I did and found me too controlling, which led to our breakup. "Come on, Victor, can you be more mature?" she said as she left.

Finally, there's my MBA.

Determined for a career change, I started an MBA program, stepping out of my comfort zone to network, which, yes, included drinking. During this time, I dated a Korean woman whose age I never quite determined. She left me for not being mature enough for her taste. "Come on, Victor, can you be more mature?" she advised before exiting my life.

So here I am, back on dating apps but with more self-awareness. I used to be a dreamer; now, I'm pragmatic. I used to be introverted; now, I've overcome my shyness to share this story with you. I used to be immature in relationships; now, I strive to be a responsible adult.

So, would you swipe left or right on me?

向左滑或向右滑?一段通過約會與成熟的旅程

你是單身,還是處於一種複雜的婚姻狀態?找尋愛情可以是一項艱鉅的任務,無論你是單身還是“有空”。

我對約會應用程式例如Tinder、Coffee Meets Bagel、OkCupid 和 Hinge並不陌生。讓我來解釋它們是如何運作的: 你可以向左滑動以拒絕一個個人資料,向右滑動以建立連接。大部分的時候,對話在還未開始之前就已經結束了,讓我有許多未講述的故事。

在我的約會個人資料的教育部分,我提到了我的三個大學學位,每個都與一個故事相關。這沒什麼大不了的——只是三個故事而已。

首先,有我的化學學士學位,來自科學學院。

在高中的時候,我是一個夢想家參與學生會活動,而當時的女友是一個現實者專注於學業。我們的志向有所不同。高中畢業後,我們去了不同的大學;我讀的是化學,而她入讀了商學院。在一個暑假,她和我分手,批評我對我們未來的抱負不夠。"Victor,你能不能成熟一點?" 她在走開之前責備我。

我第二個學位是在電腦科學的碩士學位。

我的第一個女朋友是對的。我最終在一個待遇低落的實驗室工作,後來去澳洲做了一個工作假期。返回香港後,我轉行到軟件工程。為了彌補我在學術背景和新的職業之間的差距,我攻讀了電腦科學的碩士學位。在這段時間,我在約會應用程式上認識了另一個女朋友。她是一個外向的人,賺的比我多,並且覺得我太控制欲,這導致了我們的分手。"Victor,你能不能成熟一點?" 她在離開時說。

最後,有我的MBA學位。

為了求職場轉變,我開始進修MBA課程,跳出我的舒適圈去建立人脈,包括參與飲酒的活動。在這段時間,我和一個我從未確定她的年齡的韓國女人交往。她因為覺得我不夠成熟而離我而去。"Victor,你能不能成熟一點?" 她在離開我生活之前對我說。

所以我現在又回到了約會應用程式,但我更自覺了。我以前是個夢想家; 現在,我是實事求是的。我以前是個內向的人; 現在,我克服了我的害羞,和你分享這個故事。我在感情方面曾經不成熟; 現在,我努力成為一個負責任的成年人。

那麼,你會在我身上往左滑還是往右滑呢?

The Qualities I Admire in Leadership - Steve Jobs and Lee Kuan Yew

If I could invite anyone in the world to dinner, Steve Jobs and Lee Kuan Yew would be my top choices. While it's another matter whether they would accept my invitation, I greatly admire the quality of leadership they embody.

Steve Jobs was one of the most successful entrepreneurs of our time. His story is inspiring because he co-founded Apple, overcame numerous challenges, and disrupted entire industries with inventions like the iPhone. Jobs was a compelling leader who inspired millions globally to purchase Apple products. His exceptional presentation skills made even complex technology seem accessible. By dropping out of college to follow his interests, like calligraphy, he influenced the design of the first Macintosh computer. Jobs was unafraid to make major life decisions based on his own convictions. This led him to start Pixar, another highly successful venture. His work was remarkable because he followed his passions and had a clear vision for the future.

Another leader I deeply admire is Lee Kuan Yew, whose stewardship dramatically improved the quality of life in Singapore. Despite facing numerous challenges initially, he took responsibility for the well-being of his citizens. Lee's vision for Singapore has stood the test of time, elevating the standard of living for generations. A motivational speaker, he won people's admiration by dedicating his life to the betterment of his country. Lee demonstrated strong leadership qualities, leading with charisma and unwavering determination even amid uncertainty.

His role was pivotal in Singapore gaining independence and in successfully combating various crises and dark forces that threatened the nation. Faced with life-or-death scenarios, Lee showed extraordinary courage and instinct. His adept political skills enabled him to challenge the communist party of his era and build trust and credibility during crises.

I aspire to embody the attributes of these two great men to contribute positively to the world.

我欽佩的領導品質 - 史蒂夫·賈伯斯和李光耀

如果我能邀請全世界任何一個人來家裡吃飯,我最想邀請的人就是史蒂夫·賈伯斯和李光耀。雖然他們是否會接受我的邀請是另一回事,但我非常欽佩他們所體現的領導品質。

史蒂夫·賈伯斯是我們這個時代最成功的企業家之一。他的故事很激勵人心,因為他是蘋果公司的共同創辦人,克服了許多挑戰,並且用發明像iPhone這樣的產品顛覆了整個行業。賈伯斯是一位引人注目的領導者,他激勵全球數百萬人購買蘋果產品。他出色的演示技巧使得即使是複雜的科技也變得容易接近。他曾經放棄大學,追隨自己的興趣,比如書法,影響了第一台Macintosh電腦的設計。賈伯斯不怕根據自己的信念做出重大的人生決定。這讓他創辦了皮克斯,另一個非常成功的企業。他的工作令人驚嘆,因為他追隨自己的激情並對未來有清晰的願景。

我深深欽佩的另一位領導者是李光耀。他的領導大大提高了新加坡人民的生活品質。儘管一開始面臨著很多挑戰,他仍然為自己的公民的福祉負責。李的關於新加坡的願景經得起時間的考驗,提高了幾代人的生活水平。他是一位激勵人心的演講者,他以貢獻自己的一生來改善國家的狀況,贏得了人們的欽佩。李的領導品質十分出色,充滿魅力,即便在不確定性中,他也以堅定的決心進行領導。

他在新加坡獲得獨立,以及成功對抗各種威脅國家的危機和邪惡力量中起著關鍵的作用。面對生死存亡的情況,李顯示出了非凡的勇氣和本能。他精湛的政治技巧使他能夠挑戰他時代的共產黨,並在危機中建立信任和信譽。

我期望自己能夠體現這兩位偉大的人的這些特質,以對這個世界做出積極的貢獻。

My Vision for Future Family Life

After expending all my energy at work, I envision my family as a sanctuary where I can recharge. On weekends, I plan to spend quality time with my partner—engaging in activities we both enjoy, learning something new, traveling, or embarking on unique experiences that create lasting memories. During these moments, we would be free from the distractions of phones and work deadlines, allowing us to be fully present both physically and mentally.

Such memories will stay with us for a lifetime, making it worthwhile to work hard and earn money to sustain our family. Living with a soulmate who supports each other's goals will bring a shared sense of purpose to our lives.

Raising children requires more than just financial support; it also entails nurturing them to become better individuals. This includes imparting valuable qualities such as kindness. The world can be a challenging place, and it would be irresponsible to bring a new generation into existence only for them to experience suffering. If I failed to lead a fulfilling life and share it with my children, they would likely resent me for bringing them into this world.

Therefore, I remain optimistic, believing that life, despite its hardships, contains beauty and significance. While my children will undoubtedly face many challenges, I intend to teach them to maintain a positive outlook and focus on the brighter aspects of life.

This philosophy guides me in ensuring that my family leads a happy and fulfilling life. I am committed to devoting my energy not just to my work but also to raising my children properly. A family is a social unit, and it's my responsibility to educate and prepare my children to be responsible citizens. In our family unit, relationships should be harmonious and respectful.

我的未來家庭生活願景

在工作中耗盡所有精力後,我會把家庭看作是我可以充電的聖堂。週末,我打算與我的伴侶度過高質量的時光——參與我們都喜歡的活動,學習新事物,旅行,或展開創造持久回憶的獨特經歷。在這些時刻,我們將完全擺脫手機和工作期限的干擾,使我們能在身心上都全然出席。

這樣的回憶將伴我們一生,使我們努力工作並賺錢以維持我們的家庭成為值得的事情。與一位支持彼此目標的知已共同生活,將為我們的生活帶來共享的生命目標。

養育孩子不僅需要金錢上的支持,也包括培育他們成為更好的個體。這包括賦予他們珍貴的品質,如善良。這個世界可能是一個充滿挑戰的地方,只為他們經歷苦難而生下新一代是不負責任的。如果我不能過上充實的生活並與我的孩子們分享,他們可能會對我把他們帶進這個世界感到怨恨。

因此,我保持樂觀,相信生活儘管艱辛,仍然包含美麗和意義。雖然我的孩子們無疑將面臨許多挑戰,但我打算教導他們保持積極的看法,並專注於生活的光明面。

這種哲學導引我確保我的家庭過上快樂而充實的生活。我致力於將我的精力不僅投入到我的工作中,還要正確地撫養我的孩子。家庭是一個社會單位,我有責任教育並準備我的孩子成為負責任的公民。在我們的家庭單位中,人際關係應該是和諧和尊重的。

On My Future Career in Management

My future professional path lies in management. Over the next six months, I aspire to become an effective manager—one who looks after the team, offers support, and takes responsibility for outcomes.

In my experience, I've encountered a fair share of poor managers: those who blame their subordinates, raise their voices so the entire floor can hear, and reprimand employees with baseless accusations in the middle of the night. I once had a manager who only interacted with her favorite long-term team members, rarely engaging with newcomers. Such managers may be able to complete tasks, but their ascent to higher positions often results in poor leadership. This made me question, "Can this style of management ever be effective in a leadership role?"

Within the next two years, I aim to lead a larger team and community. Many people desire leadership roles solely for the power, seeking to control others and serve their own interests. Individuals with such motives shouldn't remain in their positions for long. Sadly, no democratic system can fully eliminate this kind of bureaucracy, which often leads to corruption and the disintegration of the entire group. We should all aim to be servant leaders, understanding that our authority comes from the people, is exercised for the people, and is accountable to the people. We are nothing without those we lead, and it is our mission to improve everyone's lives and help them achieve their goals.

Five years from now, I hope to serve as a director, making an even greater contribution to society. By leveraging my knowledge, experience, and data analysis skills, I aim to make optimal decisions for our team—decisions that will put our collective efforts to good use rather than wasting them. It would be frustrating to see a team work hard only to head in the wrong direction. It's important to accomplish something that goes beyond individual aspirations, creating a culture where employees genuinely enjoy coming to work and aren't bogged down by toxic office politics.

I've come to realize that the potential for making a positive impact on a community, one that benefits everyone involved, holds greater significance in our lives than achieving personal career milestones.