Continuous Improvement

September 05, 2021

Thank you for taking the time to read my book and journey through my life experiences with me. You likely have your own set of challenges and obstacles. That’s why you sought out my book—to understand how I’ve managed to navigate through mine.

2021 09 05

I failed in my first twelve romantic relationships. It's not that I wasn't appealing; in fact, I changed my appearance after the first six failures, opting for a better haircut and more suitable attire. Nevertheless, I continued to struggle. I hoped each new relationship would be an improvement over the last, but marriage remained elusive. I share my experiences to help you avoid making the same mistakes.

So why do relationships fail? It might be because your qualities aren't as compelling as those of other potential partners, making you less attractive or financially desirable. Your partner might simply prefer someone else; after all, there are plenty of fish in the sea.

What can you do about it? My book advises you to focus on two words: continuous improvement. Rather than indulging in jealousy or self-pity, steer clear of negativity.

To improve, engage with life fully, deepen your relationships, and showcase your best qualities. Work on advancing your career, expanding your social circle, and enhancing your physical well-being. This change will not only shift how people perceive you, but also improve your odds if a potential partner is choosing between you and someone else. You’ll be seen as a person who values self-improvement and long-term growth.

You see, current circumstances are not permanent indicators of future success. I may be facing challenges now, but that doesn’t define my future. Before achieving your goals, you must first demonstrate your potential. Self-improvement is crucial; it allows your partner to recognize your latent talents and aspirations.

Your competition might not be as committed to personal growth. Even if they currently surpass you in some qualities, you can bridge that gap through persistent effort. Fashion sense is one example. If you and your girlfriend share a similar style, she’ll likely view you as compatible.

It's not the end of the world if your current relationship doesn't work out. Continuous improvement will expand your opportunities. The key is to avoid pressuring your partner into making a decision about the relationship. No one likes to feel coerced; people prefer to make choices freely. Give your partner the space to decide whether they see a future with you.

Are you the kind of man who embraces this philosophy? That's why you picked up this book—to be inspired to become a better person. Don't worry about making a single mistake. What’s essential is maintaining a positive atmosphere in your relationship. Inject humor, engage in healthy debates, and set challenges just as you would in public speaking. Know when to compliment and flatter; the right words at the right time can elevate the relationship.

Furthermore, it's important to have a sense of purpose in life that extends beyond your own benefit. If you appear selfish, no woman would want to envision a future with you. Understand your responsibilities within the larger society. Strive to be someone who can contribute positively to the world. That's an attractive quality.

In summary, remember the principle of freedom. Let your partner choose you without feeling pressured. Focus less on your competition and more on exuding a positive energy.

I hope you find my book helpful. If so, please recommend it to others who might benefit. Not only will this improve your romantic relationships, but it will also make you a more valuable colleague and friend.

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Victor Leung, who blog about business, technology and personal development. Happy to connect on LinkedIn